Self-Care: Wash Day

Self-care is paramount to wellness. We can’t be the best we can be for others, if we aren’t the best for ourselves. So it is vital that we carve out time in our busy schedules to cater to our own needs. There are an endless number of ways in which we can practice self-care. One of my favorite forms of self-care is through my hair care – specifically my wash day. I absolutely love it!

Now for my non-Black, non-natural readers, you may be a little confused.
“What is wash day?

And if you are Black and/or natural, you may still be confused.
“Why on earth do you love your wash day? Self-care?”

I know it sounds crazy, but hear me out.

Just to bring those up to speed who are still trying to figure out what I’m talking about, “wash day” is the day us naturals wash our hair. Sounds simple enough, right? Not necessarily. Washing our hair isn’t a quick process. It’s usually an all-day ordeal. Some routines even call for overnight processing. The wash day is when we set time aside to do the “full process”: pre-poo (pre-shampoo treatment), shampoo, conditioner, deep conditioner, moisturize using the L.O.C. (leave-in conditioner, oil, cream) method, and style.

Caring for natural hair can be expensive and time consuming. Which is why I expect many of my fellow naturals to still be shaking their heads on why I consider my wash day to be one of my favorite forms of self-care. Because for many, the wash day is the bane of a natural’s existence.

It was dreadful for me as well, at the beginning, until I got a rhythm going. I found the right products. I found the right playlist on Spotify. And I found the right mentality. I chose to go natural to rid my beautiful, thick, kinky, coily, curls of harmful chemicals that were destroying its luster. I chose the health of my hair over societal pressures. And my hair is a reflection of me. So I better treat her right!

My wash day is twice a month. Shortening it from its once 4x/month regimen helped me fall in love with the process. I didn’t feel as exhausted as I once did — committing to such a long process weekly.

My wash day is filled with music and dancing and occasionally, a glass of wine. My wash day is exciting because I can see the growth of my hair. I can feel its health. It’s gratifying to be able to physically touch and see the fruits of my labor – dedicated and consistent hair care and love.

But most importantly, my wash day is mine. It is dedicated time for me to love on myself and perfect my crown.

So ladies and gents, whether you are natural or not, consider whether hair care can be a form of self-care for you! If it already is, share it with us! Have any others forms of self-care you practice? Share below!



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12 Comments Add yours

  1. Anecia says:

    I usually just wash my hair with shampoo and use conditioner that’s about it. I do need to do a better job with washing my hair.

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    1. Hey, whatever works best for your hair! In between my full wash days, if I really need a cleansing, I’ll co-wash.


  2. Dāsha says:

    I’m glad somebody enjoys wash day. Me on the other hand, even though it doesn’t take me long I really can’t stand it. I’m going to try listening to a playlist. Thanks Nadia!

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  3. Kiki says:

    Wash days as self care days…. whaaaaaaa!!! 😬Ha yes so true though. I’ve learned to embrace the process of wash days and taking the time out for me. While conditioning, I’ll play some music, catch up on my shows, do a mask and just be.. its love and I look forward to it.

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    1. Yaaaas! I totally agree 🙂


  4. Louise says:

    Yup! Totally agree with wash Day being a part of selfcare. On wash Day I take the time to give myself a facial while I deep condition. I exfoliate, steam and do a mask. Sometimes I even have time to do my nails. Thanks for sharing this!

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    1. Omg, I have to try the facial! Thanks for the tip!!


  5. Tina says:

    Hey Nadia, I had a similar dilemma where I could not keep up nor did I want to keep up with a weekly regime. I switched to once a month. I do the LCO method in the winter and LOC in the summer. Can you post some pictures of your before and after?

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    1. Cool! I’ve tried the LCO method and liked it, but I couldn’t really tell if I noticed a difference.

      I wouldn’t mind making a post detailing my hair journey and pics! In the meantime, you can check out my IG @nadia_rising 🙂


  6. Okay, so as a man, I can’t even pretend like I have the indepth understanding of the experience of wash day. However, your expression of it made me feel as if I did. I literally saw in my mind the calming and tedious efforts of black beautification. I think the sign of a good writer is to cause your audience to connect with you, even if a true connection is impossible You did that. Thanks for your expression.

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    1. Omg, thank you so much!! What an incredible comment 🙂


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